Inner Leadership provides a step by step guide for how we can do the second — how we can use stress and even fear to make us stronger.
Achieving this shift doesn’t come from a single magic bullet. It comes from combining seven distinct parts:
- Chapter 1 shows us how to centre and ground, remain calm in a crisis, and connect strongly with our best version of ourselves, no matter what is happening around us
- ‘Fear’ can also stand for ‘False Evidence Appearing Real’ so Chapter 2 shows us how to check the evidence and make clear sense of the situation we face
- Chapters 3 and 4 show us how to find the opportunities in a crisis and then choose the one that is best for us, even when times are uncertain
- Chapter 5 provides the focus and determination that come from knowing our purpose and our values
- And Chapters 6 and 7 show us how to articulate our chosen way forward in a way that inspires us, and other people, to long to make it happen
If we look back through our life we can probably remember dozens of times when we felt afraid: our first day at a new school, our first driving lesson, our first date, our first job, and so on. But each time this happened, behind the fear we felt was an opportunity for us to learn and grow. And if we approached these new situations in the right way, and gained the right skills, then even something as apparently scary as riding a rodeo bull could become routine or even an adventure!
When we understand that what we call a ‘crisis’ is really an opportunity, and that our purpose and values are a recipe for becoming fully who we truly are, then we are ready to learn that what we call ‘Fear’ is actually an opportunity to Face Everything And Rise.
This is another step to becoming antifragile.
Adapted from Inner Leadership: a framework and tools for building inspiration in times of change.
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