Not knowing who you want to become

This time of change is bringing us opportunities as well as problems. But even when we know how to find those opportunities, the uncertainty of a changing world means that we can still sometimes feel uncertain about how best to move forward.

There are three main reasons why this happens. The second is when we don’t know who we want to become.

If you don’t know where you want to get to, then all ways forward will seem equally irrelevant.

Several tools of Inner Leadership can help us gain clarity around where we most want to get to, who we most want to become:

In this time of churning, all ways forward are uncertain. If we don’t know who we want to become then all ways forward are likely to seem difficult.

But the more clearly we know who we most want to become, the easier it is to choose the best way forward for us, and the more inspiration we then give ourselves to get there.

This is another step to becoming antifragile.

Have you ever struggled to choose the best way forward for you? Was it because you weren’t clear who you wanted to become? Would it be useful to give yourself that clarity and inspiration now?

Adapted from Inner Leadership: a framework and tools for building inspiration in times of change.

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