Not knowing who you want to become

This time of change is bringing us opportunities as well as problems. But even when we know how to find those opportunities, the uncertainty of a changing world means that we can still feel uncertain about how best to move forward.

There are three main reasons this can happen. The second of these is when we don’t know who we want to become.

If you don’t know where you want to get to, then all ways forward will seem equally irrelevant.

Several of the tools of Inner Leadership can help to bring us clarity around where we most want to get to, who we most want to become:

In this time of churning, all ways forward are going to be uncertain. And all ways forward are likely to be difficult. That’s just the way it is.

But if we know who we most want to become, then we can choose the best way forward for now, and we can inspire ourselves to get there.

This is another step to becoming antifragile.

Have you ever struggled to choose your way forward? Was that because you weren’t clear who you wanted to become? Would it be useful to give yourself that clarity and inspiration now?


Adapted from Inner Leadership: a framework and tools for building inspiration in times of change.

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