Overcoming fear

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Once we have learned to look for the opportunities in a situation, there can be three main reasons why we might still find ourselves stuck. The first of these is overthinking. The second is not knowing who we want to become. And the third is simply feeling afraid.

As Nelson Mandela is often quoted as saying:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?”

Whether we feel afraid to fail or succeed, these times of change are creating an increasing range of issues that somebody needs to step up to address.

Our playing small does not serve the world, it does not serve the people around us, and most of all it does not serve us.

In this time of change, all ways forward will be difficult and unpredictable. So the biggest risk comes from staying still.

The opportunity change brings is to find an issue that inspires you, manage the risks, and inspire yourself and others to do what needs to be done to create the world you want.

If we still feel afraid, a simple coaching tool for dealing with fear is to ask ourselves:

What’s the worst that could happen?

Then plan for that. Because once we know what the worst is, and what we’d do if it happened, then we can feel the fear and do it anyway.

And when we allow ourselves to step into the place where we align our best skills with what we care most about, then we bring the most value to the world, experience the most flow and the most fun, and fully express the best version of ourselves. That, surely, is what life is for?

Can you think of a time when fear held you back from doing something? What was the worst that might have happened if you did nothing? What was the best that could have happened if you did something? And between those two extremes, what would have most inspired you to want to make it happen?


Adapted from Inner Leadership: tools for building inspiration in times of change.

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