Overcoming fear

Woman, flying through the air with arms outstretchedIn times of change there are three main reasons we can sometimes get stuck. The first of these is overthinking, the second is not knowing who we want to become, and the third is simply when we feel afraid.

As Nelson Mandela is often quoted as saying:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?”

Whether we feel afraid to fail or afraid to succeed, our playing small does not serve the world. It does not serve the people around us. And most of all it does not serve us.

The fact is that this time of change is creating an increasing range of problems for someone to step up to. Inner Leadership provides a framework for finding the issue that you will feel most energised to address. It shows you how to make clear sense of the situation, find a wide range of options for moving forward, and then turn the best of them into an vision that inspires you and other people to want to make it happen.

The inspiration you then feel makes it much more likely that you will achieve your goals. And if you don’t then it doesn’t mean you “failed” — it simply means the world has turned out differently from the way you expected, which is surely never a surprise in a time of change? Then you find a new way to achieve your objective and move forward again.

When we do this, we step into the place where our skills align best with what we care about most. We bring the most value to the world. We also experience the most flow and the most fun. And we fully express the best version of ourselves. That, surely, is what life is for?

And when we realise that, no matter what happens, the challenges we face are actually opportunities to become our best selves, what reason is there to feel afraid?

Can you think of a time, either now or in the past, when fear held you back from doing something? What was the worst that might have happened if you did nothing? What was the best that could have happened if you did something? And between these two extremes, would you have liked to have known how to find a way forward that best aligned with your purpose and values and inspiredyou to want to make it happen?

Adapted from Inner Leadership: tools for building inspiration in times of change.

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