Three reasons we can sometimes get stuck

A car attempts to pull out a car that has got stuck in the mud

The first three competencies of Inner Leadership are the ability to stay calm in a crisis, to make clear sense of our situation, and then to find the opportunities to move forward.

But even when we have these skills we can still sometimes find ourselves getting stuck. Why?

There are three main reasons why this can happen:

— The first is called analysis-paralysis or overthinking.This is where we over-analyse a situation so much that we cannot take a decision. Like Hamlet, we flip back and forth between the possibilities and consequences, endlessly asking: “Option A or Option B, that is the question… Or Option C or D? But have I got it right? And what if it doesn’t work? And what if it does work… And… ?”

— The second reason we might find ourselves stuck is if we aren’t sure who we want to become, the destiny we want to create for ourselves. After all, if we don’t know who we want to have been on our death bed then how can we choose our best next step now?

— And the third main reason we can sometimes get stuck is fear: fear of failure, fear of success, fear of the unknown, fear of what we might encounter along the way.

So the fourth competency of Inner Leadership is to learn how to identify, understand, and remove these blockages:

  1. To accept that in a time of massive change we will never be able to predict or control what is going to happen: all ways forward are a step into the unknown
  2. There is no ‘right’ answer, and by choosing the path that will bring the most energy and inspiration we give ourselves the best chance to create what we most want in the world
  3. The biggest danger is to stay still and do nothing

Whatever way forward we choose, things will not turn out exactly the way we expect. But with Inner Leadership that doesn’t matter: we will be able to remain calm, make sense of the new situation, find our opportunities, and again choose move forward towards the one that suits us best.

Have you ever found yourself stuck? Was it because you were overthinking, afraid, or didn’t know what destiny you wanted to create for yourself? Did you choose the way forward that most inspired you? With hindsight, do you wish that you had?

Adapted from Inner Leadership: tools for building inspiration in times of change.

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