Three reasons we can sometimes get stuck


The first three competencies of Inner Leadership are the abilities to stay calm in a crisis, make clear sense of the situation, and then find the opportunities to move forward.

But even when we have these skills we can still sometimes find ourselves getting stuck.

There are three main reasons why this happens.

— The first is called overthinking or analysis-paralysis. This is where we over-analyse a situation to such a extent that we cannot take a decision. Like Hamlet, we flip back and forth between the possibilities and their consequences, endlessly asking: “Option A or Option B (or C or D), that is the question… But have I got it right? And what if it doesn’t work? And what if it does work… ?”

— The second reason we can find ourselves stuck is when we don’t know who we want to become, the destiny we want to create for ourselves. Because if we don’t know who we want to become then how can we choose our next best step forward?

— And the third main reason we can sometimes get stuck is fear: fear of what we might encounter along the way. Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of the unknown.

The fourth competency of Inner Leadership is to learn the tools that can help us to identify, understand, and remove these blockages:

  1. To accept that in a time of massive change we will never find certainty: we will never be sure of what is happening and all ways forward will be a step into the unknown.
  2. There is no ‘right’ answer, there is only the choice we make to bring ourselves the most energy and inspiration to create what we most want in an uncertain world.
  3. The biggest danger is to stay still and do nothing.
  4. Whatever we choose, things will not turn out exactly the way we expect. But if we have the skills of Inner Leadership that doesn’t matter: we will be able to remain calm, make sense of the situation, find new opportunities, and again move forward towards the one that suits us best.

Have you ever found yourself stuck, unable to move forward? Was it because you were overthinking, afraid, or didn’t know what destiny you wanted to create for yourself? Did you choose the way forward that most inspired you? Do you wish, with hindsight, that you had?

Adapted from Inner Leadership: tools for building inspiration in times of change.

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