How to find your purpose in life

We’ve seen how knowing our life purpose will help us to succeed in a changing world. And we’ve also seen how living in line with that purpose will make us more adaptable, bring us extra focus and energy, and even make us healthier by changing our genes.

So how do we find our life purpose?

Some people just seem to know what their purpose is. But for the rest of us, the best way to find our purpose is by following these four steps. This will bring you a ‘first pass’ description that you can try on, see how it fits, and most importantly begin to implement. And then, as you move forward, you can start to learn, refine, adapt, and improve.

To begin, answer these three questions:

1. What are your two best qualities?
   
   What are the two best qualities you bring to the world? Not just skills or knowledge but qualities you have.
   
   (If you find it difficult to pick just two, ask some trusted friends. Listen to their answers, keep what you like, ignore what you don’t. And then pick the two qualities that you think best describe you: qualities you love about yourself, that summarise the essence of who you are.)
   
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2. How do you love to express these qualities?
   
   Next, describe how you most love to put these qualities into practice.
   
   (You might define this in terms of how you love to use or apply your best qualities. Or you might like to define it in terms of the outcomes you love to create. Use whichever approach works best for you.)
   
   How do you most love to express your two best qualities?
   
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3. Describe your ideal world
   
   Finally, describe what a perfect world looks like to you.
   
   What would you see, hear, feel, taste, or smell if the world were perfect, according to you?
   
   What does a perfect world look like to you?

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Of course, you can’t learn to swim just by reading about swimming — you have to do the practice.

So if you really want to know what your life’s purpose is then answer these three questions now, before you read on to the fourth step.

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Once you know your answers to these questions then finding your life’s purpose is easy.

Because the purpose of your life is to become the best version of yourself, in the world as it exists today: to express your best qualities, in the ways you most love doing, to create your ideal world.

So take your answers to the three questions and combine them to form a sentence.

You might say:

The purpose of my life is to express my [best qualities], by [doing the activity that is the way I most love to express my best qualities], to create [what an ideal world looks like to me].

How does that sit with you?

Or you could change the order. You might prefer to say:

“My purpose is to create [my ideal world], by using my [best qualities], [in the way I most love using them].”

Play with the wording until you find something that feels right for now. And remember it doesn’t have to be perfect. The point is to find something that is good enough to be a starting point. And then as you move forward and learn, you can always adapt or improve the wording as you come to understand yourself more deeply.

The purpose of your life is to express the unique person you are as fully as you can, in the ways you most love doing, to create your ideal world. And once you decide to do that, then you have started to become antifragile.

Would you like to spend more of your time each day, using your best qualities in the ways you most love, creating your ideal world? What are your two best qualities? How do you most love to express them? What does an ideal world look like to you?

(The book contains other tools that will bring you deeper insights into your Purpose, but this post is a good starting point.)

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Adapted from The Churning, Inner Leadership: a framework and a set of tools for building inspiration in a time of change.

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