Not knowing who we want to become

Signpost indicating all directions in the world. Schiphol airport, Amsterdam, the Netherlands, about 1937.

This time of change is bringing us opportunities as well as problems. But even when we see those opportunities clearly, the uncertainty of a changing world means that we can still feel unsure about how best to move forward.

There are three main reasons this can happen. The second is when we haven’t decided who or what we want to become.

“If you don’t know where you want to get to, all ways forward will seem equally irrelevant.”

Several tools of Inner Leadership help us build clarity around where we most want to get to, who we most want to become:

In a time of churning, all ways forward are likely to seem difficult or uncertain.

Knowing who we most want to become will help us to choose our best way forward and also build the momentum, enthusiasm, and inspiration to get us there. This is another step towards making us antifragile.

Have you ever struggled to choose a way forward? Was it because you weren’t really clear who you wanted to become and hence which direction would take you there? What would it be like if you had clarity?

Adapted from Inner Leadership: a framework and tools for building inspiration in times of change.

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