Not knowing who we want to become

Signpost indicating all directions in the world. Schiphol airport, Amsterdam, the Netherlands, about 1937.

A time of change will bring us opportunities as well as problems. But even when we see them clearly, the uncertainty of a changing world means we can easily find ourselves unable to decide how best to move forward.

There are three main reasons for this. The second is when we don’t know who or what we want to become. When we haven’t chosen a destiny for ourselves then all ways forward can seem equally (ir)relevant.

The tools of several chapters of Inner Leadership can help to bring us clarity:

  • The tools of Chapter 1 enable us to centre and ground, connecting us more deeply with who we are and what matters most to us
  • The tools of Chapters 2 and 3 help us to think around the situation, identifying more alternatives and making it clearer why each is more (or less) attractive
  • Chapter 5 uncovers our purpose and values: these bring long term guidance to any situation, and
  • The tools of Chapter 4 help us learn from our past, and our future, and also provide an analytical tool that we can use to choose between the options we have generated

In a time of churning, all ways forward are likely to seem difficult or uncertain.

Doing the work to get clear on who you are and who you most want to become can be a big help in choosing your best way forward. It will also bring the energy and enthusiasm to keep you going in a time of change.

Have you ever struggled to choose a way forward? Was it because you weren’t sure who you wanted to become? Are you sure now? Would you like to get clearer?

Adapted from Inner Leadership: tools for building inspiration in times of change.

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