Transforming unwanted emotions

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A time of change can often bring unwanted emotions such as anger, frustration, fear, and sadness.

Often we work hard to make these emotions go away. But with a different attitude, and the right tools, we can learn to transform these emotions into useful allies:

  • Anger and frustration can be turned into Passion
    Anger shows us what we care about.
    When we realise this we can get clear on what that is and find more options to move forward to achieve it. Then we can turn our anger into passion to do what we can to make the meaning of our own lives.
  • Fear can become Courage
    Fear comes from imagining something that hasn’t happened yet: it is ‘False Evidence Appearing Real’.
    Courage isn’t an absence of fear: it is feeling the fear and doing it anyway. So if we know what most inspires us, and have planned for the risks, then we can transform ‘Fear’ into ‘Face Everything And Rise’.
  • Sadness can be turned into Joy and Aliveness:
    Sadness is a sign that we have lost something important to us.
    Joy, exhilaration, and flow will come when we work to regain it.
    When we work in line with our values we lose track of time and feel most fully alive. When we work in line with our purpose we use our best qualities, in the ways we most love, to achieve what matters most to us. If we get clear on our purpose and values, and know how to grieve and let go of what we have lost, then we can turn to face the future, and start to rebuild what we care about most.

The frustrations and unwanted emotions we sometimes experience in this time of change are just temporary feelings, showing us what we want instead of what we’ve got, and urging us to work with others to create it:

With the right attitude and tools this becomes easier.

Have you or any of the people around you been feeling any unwanted emotions lately? What if you could transform these emotions into the focus and energy to get what you want instead?

Adapted from Inner Leadership: a framework and tools for building inspiration in times of change.

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