A time of change pushes us to take decisions without knowing how things are going to turn out.
One approach that can help us to get better at doing this is to learn from our past — especially from a time when things didn’t turn out the way we wanted.
Before Thomas Edison invented the lightbulb he tried thousands of approaches that didn’t work.
He saw these attempts not as ‘failures’ but as successful steps towards getting the outcome he wanted:
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
Having this attitude will be extremely useful in a time of change.
To apply this wisdom in your life, think back to a time when you made a decision that didn’t turn out the way you wanted.
Then ask yourself five questions:
- What was the choice I made? What did I expect to happen? What did happen?
- What lesson did I teach myself at the time: did I judge it as a ‘failure’ or as something else?
- Was this a mis-blink? What alternative lessons or interpretations are also possible?
- What other opportunities might I have had — to ignore, leave, fix, improve, or transform the situation?
- Knowing all this, would I still make the same decision?
To get the maximum benefit, answer these questions before you read on.
If you decide that you would make the same decision again then you know you can trust the choices you make now, even if things don’t turn out the way you expect this time either.
If you decide you would make a different choice then you can still trust the choice you make now, because even if it doesn’t turn out the way you want, you will again be able to learn from the experience.
In a time of massive change, many things are not going to turn out the way we expect. This means the important thing is not to get it right every time. The important thing is to increase our ability to make the best choices we can, even when the outcomes are uncertain, and to keep moving towards a goal that is important to us.
This is a skill we can learn — if we practice.
In the future, do you expect it will become more important or less important for you to be able to take decisions without knowing how things are going to turn out? What are you doing to prepare for that?
Adapted from Inner Leadership: a framework and tools for building inspiration in times of change.
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