Another form of distorted thinking (or “mis-blink”) that people can easily fall into during times of change is when we mistake our feelings for truth. This happens when we feel something so strongly that must be true — regardless of the evidence.
This has played a major role in our politics lately.
Mistaking feelings for facts is a circular train of thought that amplifies the effects of the other seven mis-blinks and says, “Because I am feeling this so strongly it must be true. So I feel even more strongly, which makes it even more true!!!”
But beliefs that are not supported by facts can be dangerous.
Mistaking feelings for truth can lead us both into over-confidence or self-doubt: “Because I am feeling so good (or bad) I must be bound to succeed (or fail), which means there’s nothing I need to do (or can do) to influence the outcome.” Both these mistakes lead to under-preparation and a failure to achieve what might have been achieved.
We human beings are emotional creatures. Emotions are what make us more than just machines. Without them there would be no joy, no love, no sports, no arts, no movies, no comedy, music, friends, lovers, life-partners, or children. Emotions make our lives worth living.
So the problem is not the feelings in themselves but the way that we interpret those feelings.
Realising that our feelings are not truth, they are just something we are experiencing for a short time, is our first step to learning to transform those emotions — from unhelpful tyrants into useful servants. This is another step to making us antifragile.
Do you know someone who ignores the facts and believes their feelings are truth? What kinds of outcomes does that create for them and for the people around them? Would it be useful to have a structured approach for making clearer sense of the facts of the situation and then finding more options to move forward and then choosing the one that most inspires you and other people to make it happen?
Adapted from Inner Leadership: a framework and tools for building inspiration in times of change.
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